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Leap of Faith

Tonight my kids were taking turns standing on a chair in our living room. One after the other they jumped out of the chair and into my arms.

At first, there was some trepidation. They jumped only if my hands were just a few inches from them.

But slowly I moved my hands back and by the end they were both freely jumping out of the chair into my arms, simply trusting that their daddy would be there to catch them.

Even when Tommy was hesitant and scared, Phoebe started yelling for him, “You can do it! Daddy will catch you!”

I hope it’s not trite, but I couldn’t help but think spiritual thoughts in those few moments.

I mean, is this not the leap of faith Christ has called us to – slowly and increasingly learning to trust him by trying out the strength of his hands over, and over, and over?

And is this not a great picture of the way he has called us to leap – encouraging one another through our fears and trials?

I want my kids to grow up trusting that when they leap and when they fall, their daddy will be there to catch them.

I want my kids to grow up believing that the best way to take a leap of faith is in the presence of a community of people that are saying, “You can do it! Daddy will catch you!”

I’m not yet the trusting son my Father wants me to be. And I am not yet the encouraging community my Father wants me to be.

But one day, after I jump the little jumps over, and over, and over, and hear the shouts of encouragement over, and over, and over, I will be a son conformed to the image of the Son. A son taking a dangerous and beautiful leap into his Father’s arms, and encouraging others to take the leap of faith into his strong arms, too.


Daddy Sage: Boots Should Be My Daddy

Setting: Phoebe has been throwing a fit, screaming, “Mommy, mommy, mommy” for a number of minutes.

Mommy: You know you have another parent, Phoebe. Daddy is also your parent. You could scream for him.

Phoebe: (look of realization comes over her) NNNNNOOOOOOOOOO!!!!!!!!!!

Daddy: You don’t want me to be your daddy, honey?

Phoebe: (pure anger in her eyes) NNNNNNOOOOOO!!!!!!!

Daddy: Well who do you want your daddy to be?

Phoebe: Mommy!!!!!

Daddy: Sorry, dear, but I’m pretty sure that’s biologically impossible.

Phoebe: NNNNNOOOOOO!!!!!!

Daddy: Would you like for (Curious) George to be your daddy?

Phoebe: No.

Daddy: How about Boots (Dora the Explorer’s sidekick)?

Phoebe: (initially she begins to say ‘no’, but then a contemplative look comes over her face) YESSSSSS!!!

Daddy: Good luck convincing mommy of that one.

It seems that I have lost paternal rights to a sidekick monkey. It’s probably because he wears cooler shoes than me. 


Events of Thanksgiving Day for which I’m Thankful

  1. Teaching my crazy family to play Mafia (they were terrible and hilarious – instead of trying to figure out who the Mafia ACTUALLY was, the towns people kept accusing one another, citing personal vendetta reasons that were not at all game-related. Ridiculous!).
  2. My daughter, who seems to be learning her social skills from Curious George. Lots of grunting. Lots of risk taking.
  3. Noticing that my son’s face lights up with a great big smile when I’m in the room. His eyes follow me around the room wherever I go.
  4. Chili Dip
  5. Knowing that I’m living the dream because I’ve got the best job in the world: working at a church that loves me and prays for me. Not many people like their jobs; I feel very blessed to get to do what I love most in life.
  6. A mother and father-in-law that love blessing other people. Every holiday season, they have people in and out of their house for weeks. I am grateful for their example of hospitality and celebration of life and family.
  7. Good books. I’m reading 3 right now: The Chronicles of Thomas Covenant: Against All Things Ending by Stephen Donaldson, Surprised by Hope by NT Wright, and Accompanying Them With Singing by Tom Long.
  8. A wife who puts up with my constant insanity, instability, and infatuation with her. She’s the best thing that ever happened to me.
  9. Talking archeology, theology, biblical studies, and American History with Michael Fosha.
  10. Football

 

Things I could have done without:

  1. student loans
  2. mustaches
  3. male pattern baldness
  4. cholesterol
  5. green beans
  6. calvinism :)
  7. baby poo
  8. the cowboys and the lions
  9. snuggies
  10. making the bed

 


Sayings of a Daddy Sage #84

“Phoebe, if you’re going to hit someone in the face, make sure it’s yourself yourself…..ouch!!!!!”


Why I Love Being a Father: Moral Values are a Distant Second

FatherhoodLegos

HT: JR Forasteros


A Father’s Patient Love

I’m sure I’ve expressed here before that I often struggle with the concept of God’s love for me. I’m a hyper-self-reflective person and it’s hard sometimes to reflect so much on my own failures (compared with my relatively few successes) and believe that God could really love someone like me, especially with a Fatherly kind of love.

Now, in the following discussion, I don’t mean to redefine sin or minimize its significance as a missing of the mark of God’s glory (that is, God himself!). But I’ve been thinking recently about God’s love in the midst of our failures and I think I’ve come up with something that touches on the reality of it, however imprecisely.

My daughter cannot do anything for me. She doesn’t help with the chores around the house, she doesn’t talk to me about her day, she doesn’t even let me know if I’m doing the right thing (though certainly she lets me know when I’m doing the wrong thing!).  At this point in her life, she is simply incapable of doing any of these things.

But my love for her is not based on her performance or her lack thereof. My heart beats for her even though she can’t talk, even though she can’t affirm or deny her own love for me, and even though she cannot share her own heart with me.

I understand that due to her stage in life, there are places she should be emotionally, spiritually, intellectually, and physically. And there are places that I simply cannot expect her to be. It would be wrong for me to hold my daughter accountable for her inability to hold conversations. It would stupid of me to assume there’s something wrong with her b/c she doesn’t think logically.

In the same way, and this isn’t an excuse for not being as spiritually mature as I should be, I believe there are levels of expectation that God has of us – and his expectations are reasonable. Yes, God demands holiness and God desires love from us. But God is also fully aware of those circumstances in our lives which blind us to truth, inhibit our growth, and simply lie so deeply within us that we cannot even see them. And while he wants those things to be redeemed, he has no grand illusion that these things change overnight.

We learn the language of faith as a baby learns the language of her parents. We learn to think correctly about God as a baby learns to think more clearly about the world she finds herself in. We learn to see areas where we can be more obedient and faithful to God as a baby learns increasingly what her parents expectations are and how to lovingly and graciously obey and submit to them.

These things do not come overnight. And I’ve come to think that God doesn’t expect them to come that way. I believe it’s our performance driven culture that asks adult things of little children (think of THAT parent at any little league game you’ve been to). But God is so averse to our performance driven culture. He doesn’t want to leave us as we are, but he is also patient with us as we discover, ever so gradually, who we are in him.

Think on these things, friends.


I Miss You Dad

I miss you dad.

It’s been one year since you passed away, but the pain and sorrow are still as real as they were that night.

I’ve already told your new granddaughter how wonderful you were and how I know your face would light up at the sight of her. Her life will always be missing an important piece.

I love you, Dad.

My Dad and Me


Why I Look Forward to Fatherhood Reason #7: Diaper Changes


Why I Look Forward to Fatherhood – Reason #5: De-Mytholization

De-Mytholization

Why I Look Forwad to Fatherhood - Reason #5: De-Mytholization


Why I Look Forward to Fatherhood – Reason #4: The Clumsy Stage

Background: This is a Helen Keller Play


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